In my opinon many conflicts start with a passive act: with the a missed or a misunderstood opportunity (since I am not talking about machine conflicts I will relate everything I am saying to the human behaviour).
And I am not discussing some obvious forms of aggression towards us which are active causes of a conflict.
How can a passive act cause a conflict? Someone hasn't done something, someone has forgotten something and this un-undertaking of action caused us some kind of trouble and therefore causes a conflict with that someone.
This un-undertaking of action is also unconscious. There are no bad intentions behind it.
We are often not aware of and grateful for the actions our friends take without us noticing those actions. We react only when there's a major problem. And we react negatively.
And very often we forget to think about all the negative things that could have happened to us if someone or something hasn't prevented them. Of course is hard to calculate this but a little more gratitude can make our lives happier.
Imagine the situation: you see your friend on the street talking on the phone not noticing a car. In the last second you prevent the accident, pushing him to the other sidewalk. If that friend doesn't see the overall situation this would be an aggressive act, he will be pissed and probbaly will slap you in the face. If he realizes your behaviour he will be very grateful and you both will be happy.
Ok, now imagine that now this guy preventing the incident is life itself. Life can hardly explain to you why it pushed you on the street. And often you cannot see the overall situation. If you get angry, live would be pissed too. If you realize the possibility that probably this trouble you have now has happened only to prevent something really bad you will not be worrying anymore.
So I'm very grateful for everything.
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